As I mentioned in my last post, I’ve messed up my categorization of my goals for 2016 (compared to 2015), so this post will have the rest of my random personal goals for 2016.
Over the holidays, my sister shared this article with me: If you’re 30% through your life, you’re likely 90% through your best relationships. Though I followed the links there and found the original post here: The Tail End.
I found the article interesting, and eye opening, and the graphics were pretty mind-boggling. If you don’t want to go over there and read the article, basically it is laying out visually, the amount of months, weeks or days that are contained in a 90 year life. And it has fun by looking at your life in terms of other events, like number of US presidents or Superbowls or swims in the ocean…
But then it goes on to discuss how the 34 year old author only has about 300 days total left with his 60 year old parents (assuming they live until 90 and he continues with the approximate 10 days a year), which compared to the amount from his youth is only about 5% of his total in-person parent time left. That doesn’t sound like much, does it?
Similarly, he discusses the amount of time left with his sisters (about 15%) and with his high school buddies (about 7%)… It’s an interesting concept to think about, and it got me wondering… How much time do I have left with my family and friends? Am I making the best of it?
As I was thinking about that, I got to thinking about the different relationships with members of my extended family. I have a coworker who is best-friends with her cousin, and they were each other’s maid of honour at their weddings. (I guess technically, one was a matron, since one was married before the other.) I live in the same city as most of my cousins, but I barely know them and don’t see them other than at large family functions. To be fair, my coworker is the same age as her cousin, and the closest cousin to me in age is 8 years older than me and the next is 12 years younger than me… but still…
Anyway, this thinking has brought me to decide on my focus for 2016, which is relationships. I want to nurture and grow my relationships, with a focus on my family and my longtime friends. The ones that I may be in the “tail-end” of our time together. So I made two goals for 2016 relating to that:
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